The Mother Wound, Three Generations Back: A Somatic Therapy and Family Constellations Guide
Most of what is written about the mother wound stops at the level of you and your mother. The deeper question is just beginning. A systemic view from a somatic therapist and family constellation facilitator. By Abi Beri | Integrative Therapist, Family Constellation Facilitator & Nervous System Specialist · Dublin & Online TL;DR. Your mother […]
What Actually Happens in a Family Constellations Session?
A plain-language guide to one of the most powerful — and most misunderstood — approaches to healing, with a short audio explainer from Abi Beri. Family Constellations is one of those approaches that’s hard to grasp until you’ve experienced it — and easy to misunderstand from the outside. If someone’s told you about it and […]
What Is Intergenerational Trauma?
Intergenerational trauma refers to emotional, relational or survival patterns that can be passed through families. This does not always happen through words. Sometimes it is passed through silence. Sometimes through nervous-system responses, family roles, beliefs, loyalties or the unspoken rules of belonging. A child may grow up sensing what is safe to say, what must […]
The Ones Who Came Before You: Healing Lost Siblings Through Family Constellations
Your body remembers what your mind was never told. By Abi Beri | Family Constellations Facilitator [Reading time: 10 minutes] You may have siblings you never knew about. I know that sounds strange. You know your family. You know who your brothers and sisters are. You have counted them, grown up with them, perhaps argued […]
The Mother Line & The Father Line
How the patterns of your ancestors are still running your life — and how to finally heal them By Abi Beri | Family Constellation Facilitator You’ve never met your great-grandmother. You don’t know her name, what she looked like, or what happened to her. And yet she’s in you. She’s in the way you hold […]
Why Was I Born Into This Family? Understanding Generational Trauma and Ancestral Healing Through Family Constellation Therapy
The Question That Haunts Us All If you’ve ever looked at your life and wondered, “Why was I born into this family?”—you’re not alone. It’s a question that arrives in the quiet hours. At 3 AM when you can’t sleep. In therapy when you’re unraveling another pattern. In moments of profound disconnect when you look at […]
The Invisible Child: Understanding Why Some Family Members Become Unseen
There’s a particular kind of loneliness that has nothing to do with being alone. It’s the loneliness of growing up in a family where you were physically present but emotionally unseen. Fed, clothed, and cared for materially—yet somehow invisible where it mattered most. You learned to be the easy child, the one who didn’t need […]
When Love Had Conditions: Family Systems & the Origins of People-Pleasing
Understanding Why You Can’t Say No as an Invisible Family Loyalty There’s a moment that happens in family constellation workshops that never fails to move me: when someone who’s spent their entire life saying “yes” when they meant “no” finally discovers why. Not just the surface why—”I was raised that way” or “I’m just too nice.” […]
Internal Family Systems: The Revolutionary Approach to Self-Compassion and Inner Healing Through Parts Work
Introduction: The Revolution of Befriending Yourself What if everything you’ve been taught about personal growth is backwards? What if your anxiety, sadness, anger, and other challenging emotions aren’t problems to be fixed, but wise parts of yourself trying to help in the only way they know how? Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS) is a gentle, […]
Why You Feel Your Ancestors’ Pain: Understanding and Healing Inherited Trauma
Have you ever felt afraid of something you’ve never experienced? Perhaps you get anxious around water despite never having a drowning incident, or feel unexplained panic about abandonment even with loving, stable relationships. Maybe you carry guilt about being happy, as if joy will inevitably be followed by disaster. If these experiences resonate with you, […]