The Mother Wound, Three Generations Back: A Somatic Therapy and Family Constellations Guide
Most of what is written about the mother wound stops at the level of you and your mother. The deeper question is just beginning. A systemic view from a somatic therapist and family constellation facilitator. By Abi Beri | Integrative Therapist, Family Constellation Facilitator & Nervous System Specialist · Dublin & Online TL;DR. Your mother […]
What Actually Happens in a Family Constellations Session?
A plain-language guide to one of the most powerful — and most misunderstood — approaches to healing, with a short audio explainer from Abi Beri. Family Constellations is one of those approaches that’s hard to grasp until you’ve experienced it — and easy to misunderstand from the outside. If someone’s told you about it and […]
What Is Intergenerational Trauma?
Intergenerational trauma refers to emotional, relational or survival patterns that can be passed through families. This does not always happen through words. Sometimes it is passed through silence. Sometimes through nervous-system responses, family roles, beliefs, loyalties or the unspoken rules of belonging. A child may grow up sensing what is safe to say, what must […]
Breaking Generational Trauma: How to Be the Cycle Breaker in Your Family
The deepest honouring is not carrying their pain. It is letting them keep their fate while you step into yours. By Abi Beri | Family Constellation Facilitator, Dublin & Online [Reading time: 14 minutes] Someone in every lineage has to be the one who says: this stops here. The patterns that have repeated for generations. […]
The Ones Who Came Before You: Healing Lost Siblings Through Family Constellations
Your body remembers what your mind was never told. By Abi Beri | Family Constellations Facilitator [Reading time: 10 minutes] You may have siblings you never knew about. I know that sounds strange. You know your family. You know who your brothers and sisters are. You have counted them, grown up with them, perhaps argued […]
The Mother Line & The Father Line
How the patterns of your ancestors are still running your life — and how to finally heal them By Abi Beri | Family Constellation Facilitator You’ve never met your great-grandmother. You don’t know her name, what she looked like, or what happened to her. And yet she’s in you. She’s in the way you hold […]
Ancestral Healing and Generational Trauma: The Science of Inherited Patterns and How to Break Free
Have you ever felt like you’re carrying something that doesn’t quite belong to you? A heaviness that doesn’t match your own life circumstances. A fear that has no clear origin in your personal history. A pattern that keeps repeating in your family, generation after generation, despite everyone’s best efforts to break it. You might be […]
Why Was I Born Into This Family? Understanding Generational Trauma and Ancestral Healing Through Family Constellation Therapy
The Question That Haunts Us All If you’ve ever looked at your life and wondered, “Why was I born into this family?”—you’re not alone. It’s a question that arrives in the quiet hours. At 3 AM when you can’t sleep. In therapy when you’re unraveling another pattern. In moments of profound disconnect when you look at […]
Why You Keep Choosing Emotionally Unavailable Partners: Understanding and Healing Ancestral Relationship Patterns Through Family Constellation Therapy
Introduction: The Pattern You Can’t Explain You’re an intelligent, self-aware person. You’ve done the work—therapy, self-help books, relationship workshops. You know what healthy love looks like. You know what you deserve. And yet, here you are again. Attracted to someone who’s emotionally unavailable. Waiting for a text that doesn’t come. Hoping they’ll finally choose you. […]
Breaking Silence: How to Heal from What Your Family Never Talked About
Introduction: The Things Nobody Said Every family has them – the subjects that make the room go quiet, the topics that cause a subtle shift in energy, the truths everyone knows but nobody names. Perhaps it’s addiction called “stress.” Mental illness labeled “having a hard time.” Affairs that reorganized the entire family but were never […]